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Dads Workshop #1: Doing What We Want is Important

some outcomes and recommendations from the Dad’s Workshop

Do more of what you want in your day! OK, so scuba diving may not be achievable today, but planning it is an achievable step. Similarly, for planning an overseas project, or trip with your partner. It is vital for mental wellbeing to identify with your key areas of interest, and then invest in them to experience the associated positive affects.

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    Some Dads in our Workshops said they wanted to …

  • Have 12 months travel around Australia          
  • Restore furniture
  • Work overseas on one of their projects    
  • Perform music or drama
  • Have 6 weeks overseas with their wife    
  • Go scuba diving
  • Complete a wine appreciation course

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Positive outcomes include feeling happier, relaxed, peaceful, less stressed, a sense of achievement, less anxious, less angry, less sad, less depressed, motivated to keep doing what feels good.

Dads Workshop #2: Relationships with Partner and Children

some outcomes and recommendations from the Dad’s Workshop

Dads reported the areas of importance and struggle in terms of their relationships:

  • Finding new ways to relate to/respond to/support their wife
  • To be able to show empathy, and have an understanding of one another’s perspective
  • To know how to share personal experiences
  • To make time to talk about ourselves
  • To decrease anger with the children so we can go from frustration to calm
  • To enjoy the children and ‘be’ with the children

Identifying and taking care of feelings, and finding ways to connect in with partners and children, are central to the concerns of Dads.

Finding ways to cope by looking after ourselves can help build positive relationships.

In a Relationship? Read this

Psychologist John Gottman’s book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. A video by a therapist who uses his model.

The video below is Gottman

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Why I like Counselling. Written by Children who attend counselling

Children who were seen for counselling were asked to write what they liked about counselling, and how they would feel if they had not received, or could not continue with, counselling. Observations of the children were also made by psychology students under my supervision.

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15 Things to Give Up to Be Happy

Whilst this article is written in the ‘what not to do” style, and I prefer to specify ‘what to do’, it still has some wise ideas.

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Discovering the Secrets of Long Term Love

‘By focusing on what we appreciate and admire in our partner and being grateful for the value and gifts that our partner brings into our lives, we cannot but think positively and may feel more intense love as a consequence’….read more

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How to Cope When Raising the Kids Becomes a Handful

An article showcasing the Being a Mother workshop founded by Betty Chetcuti